Could it be

That this is going to work out this time? I am still around, 13 weeks pregnant as of tomorrow. So far the test results, ie ultrasound and bloodwork has come out NORMAL!! It felt so good to hear that. It literally was one of the best moments of my life. I guess you cant appreciate good news if you havent experienced bad news. I am still afraid... Sometimes I wake up early in the am to lay and bed and let my mind wander. I find myself perseverating on any possible thing that could go wrong. I have strange and scarey dreams that I wake up from thankful it was just a dream. I keep waiting for someone to pull the rug out from under me. I feel like as soon as I give in and believe I will be tricked again somehow. I keep trying to focus on the positive, all the good signs that its going to work out. I guess its normal to be afraid, to be cautious. I want my happy ending so bad. I want to meet and love this little one. Hear that universe?

A new day....

So its been quite some time since I wrote. My last IUI was negative and I just felt like I really needed a break from it all. So last week I find out that I am pregnant again! Again! After finding out my emotions fluctuated between happiness and hope to fear and despair. I have prayed these last 10 months since losing Ellie for many things... sometime I prayed for Ellie to come back, sometimes I prayed for my desire for more children to go away and finally after the advice of my best friend prayed for whatever was in the best interest of everyone to happen. I have only known for a few days and had been coping fairly well until today. Today I started having tooth pain. The dentist believes I will need a root canal done, which means xrays and lidocaine. Everything says to wait until you are in your second trimester to do dental work if you can. Well, I cant wait. Somehow the axiety of all of it sent me over the edge this morning. I began to cry and cry and just hurt. I thought about all my losses and asked God directly to not ask me to hurt again. I dont want to ever feel that way again. I want to have hope but I have felt blindsided so many times. I try to just survive each day and hope that the next I am still pregnant. I would hope that God would not ask me to do this again, ie another loss, but what if God isnt in charge of this one. I am asking every gaurdian angel out there to protect me and this little one. Please show me your light and protection. I know I have got to get a hold of myself. I am hoping that I can soon.

Waiting again...

So here I am in another 2WW. I did my 4th IUI cycle, this time with clomid and injectables. I started with 4 follicles and ended up with 2 mature in the end. I have decided that if I get another bfn that we will be taking a break. Most IUI's are successfull within the first 4 attempts and even the Re has said that it doesnt make sense to do another cycle this way. So I guess if this doesnt happen than they will recommend IVF. Its crazy to think that in the past 3 years had two successul IUIs and two spontaneous pregnancies last year, but now might need IVF?? Dosent that just seem crazy!! So much about fertility is such as mystery....

So I guess there is some relief in sight. I know that whatever happens this will be it for awhile. I will try on my own I guess and consider IVF if I still feel it in the fall. So here I am hoping for something good to happen. Scared that will and scared that it wont. I try and hang out somewhere in the midde of my consciousness and take it one piece at at time.

Moving Along...

And so its been a while. Ellie's due date was last week. I should be holding my new born baby right now, but I am not. Last week I put roses and a candle under her special tree and angel. I cant believe its been so long since she left me. I miss her all the time.

As for my fertility, I am on my 4th IUI cycle with a combo of clomid and injectables. The first two cycles only produced one follicle, this last one 3, but still no luck. I had felt really positive about the last one. I am starting to doubt my intutition about things. If this cycle doesnt work I will probably take a break. I am tired of taking the crazy meds and tired of being bloated and fat. I am hoping this one will work and I will have a baby with 46 chromosomes! Otherwise I will have to pause for awhile and regroup physically and emotionally.

And so here we are again... the first cycle was negative. I had this feeling it would be. I was upset for a day and then relief followed. I was relieved of the worry that would have come with a pregnancy. So we are onto to cycle 2 of IUI. I am not really thinking about it, but rather just going through the steps to get there. I cant think too much. Its overwhelming to think of it all and to remember all we have been through to get here.

Last night I had a moment where I realized where I was. It was if I had woken up suddenly. I looked at my Christmas tree and thought about how it has always been my favorite time of year. I then moved onto the fact that I should be really pregnant right now. I should be dreaming of meeting my little girl and in awe of the fact that I am having a girl! I should be getting things ready and buying little clothes. I should be trying to figure out sleeping arrangements and preparing my boys. But instead I stare thinking of what might have been. I think about my next IUI and wonder if I will have another baby. I think this may need to be it for me. I dont want to lose another. After so many what would be left of me. So I continue to hope that I will get my wish and make it on the Xmas tree since that brings hope and wonder to little ones. I also marve at how lucky I am to have my boys. They are beautiful little souls who lift me up every day by just saying my name. I know I am blessed, I know I am lucky.... Is it wrong to just want one more?

Feeling negative

I have somehow lost my momentum. I am not as hopeful as I was almost two weeks ago right after the IUI. I fear I am not pregnant and I fear that hearing someone tell me that will trigger the flood of emotions related to loss. I have to go away this weekend with my family for my mother's birthday. I am scheduled to get bw done that morning and will probably hear something that afternoon as I am headed there. How will I act normal if its negative. I dont even know that I will have the space to cry if I need to. Only my mother knows we did an IUI so I cant even be real with everyone. I tried to see if I could move the bw appt up a day so that if its negative I can have a day to be sad, but they said its too early. Because I had a trigger shot of HCG it could show a false positiv if done too early. Its CD 11. I am fat. Fat because I have slowed down my exersize and eat all in sight. The hormones are making me tired, irritable, bloated and craving all kinds of food. I had to go buy fat clothes. I hate being fat. Fucking hate it!

I feel sad about a story in the news of a mother who sold her 5 yr old for possible prostitution and she was murdered. The mother has other children and is currently pregnant. Why is she pregnant?? There are so many women who are struggling to have a baby and would love and cherish that baby so why are babies given to women who hurt and abuse them. It makes me mad.

The 2ww

lots of thoughts going through my mind; some good, some bad, and some I just dont know. For some reason my anxiety is less than I thought since waiting to find out if I am pregnant is less stressful than waiting to see if I will have a miscarriage. I have given up some of excessive exercising since the hormones I am taking have made me gain weight. So I have surrendered. Today I surrendered so much I went out to get french fries and a hot fudge sundae. Did I also mention that the hormones give me cravings and increase my appetite. I am trying to stay positive and trying to hold out hope. I am even trying to prepare myself for a negative pregnancy test incase the IUI didnt work this time. And then what if it did work, did cell division happen correctly. Most people worry simpy did the sperm meet the egg. I take it one step farther and wonder whether cell division is occuring correctly and whether the chromosomes are lining up as they should. I keep thinking come on 46!! I want this new baby to enter our family, and I pray he/she is coming this time around. I pray and beg God to not take any more of my babies. During my IUI I secretly took pictures of Ellie and held them tight. I wanted her with me at that moment. I held them close to my heart to let her know that she could never be replaced and the decision to try was directly related to the hope and strength she has given me. I have invited Ellie back to me, but I dont think its for her to be here right now. I do believe her coming to me was a gift and as painful as it was I would never take it back. I know somewhere I am being prepared for greater work. I think she has saved my marriage. My husband and I are in a completely different place than we were a year ago. I feel so much more connected to him and feel a deeper sense of love and intimacy than ever before. I will always love Ellie and will always miss not knowing her. I know that one day when i am very old and about to die, I will start to smile knowing that the time has finally come. I know she will be the first to greet me and finally she will be with me. In the meantime I know she is arround me. I know she is in the good that happens and in the strength I find in dealing with the dark moments. For today, I enjoy my hot fudge sundae. I eat it and am reminded about the little things that make it all count...